Tiarne Wise

Thoughts between the footsteps of one foot forward!

When people ask me how I’ve been, I can’t really say, “I’ve been untangling the version of myself that was built to survive.” Rebuilding my identity after years of losing myself. Healing from years of trauma, only for my body to be hit with an abusive marriage and everything that came with it. To still dealing with PTSD (even though I’m with an incredibly loving and amazing man) that still pops up at the weirdest of times, just to remind me there is still more healing to do. Or, some days, to show me just how little I feel like I’ve healed, after almost four years after leaving. Trying to calm a dysregulated nervous system that has been stuck in fight or flight for more than 11 years. So instead, I usually just say, “I’m busy,” or “I’m doing alright,” or “I’ll get there.” Because what do you even say when the truth is that you’re still figuring it all out? Why do we feel like we have to pretend we’re holding everything together when, sometimes, life is anything but together? We all have our shit. Some of us just have a little more of it at certain times. And sometimes our partner, friends and family need to carry some of it for us because it’s simply too heavy for us to carry alone. Sometimes we’re not avoiding people. We’re literally just surviving. We’ve been too busy trying to get through the day to catch up, laugh, go out, or do the things that make us feel like ourselves again. Mental health, trauma and healing don’t follow a straight line. There is no neat little path from broken to healed. Sometimes we take five wrong turns before we find the right road. Sometimes we have to stop and ask for directions. Sometimes we need someone to walk beside us for a while. And sometimes, the biggest achievement is simply putting one foot in front of the other. As long as, somewhere along the way, you find your way back to yourself, cause eventually it will be all okay again. A feeling is only ever temporary. Remember that even if you remember anything else. And honestly, I’ve been completely blown away by everyone who has walked alongside me so far. By the messages. The check-ins. The thoughts. The people who have joined me for a walk. And the incredibly generous donations to a cause that means so much to me. You beautiful people have already raised over $1,000, and I’ve walked 38km of my 100km goal on only day 6. 🥹 Mental health has touched so many lives, whether we talk about it or not. And sometimes the person beside you is carrying something you know absolutely nothing about. So if you’re struggling, please know you don’t have to carry it all alone. Walk with someone. Ask for help, please ask! 🙏🏻 I know it’s hard and you may not want to. But, let someone carry a little of the weight. Or, if all you can manage today is one more step, take that one. Then another. And another. Eventually, you’ll look back and realise you’ve come further than you thought. Walking together, we can do anything. Because no one should ever have to battle alone. 💛 Thank you for walking with me in anyway you have at any point of my life! 🥹 Big love to you all! 🥰 Share